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I understand both sides of the situation to some extent. Miyuki felt as if she was defending the rules, and people may have responded in such a manner thinking that they were just joking around and that it wouldn't have been a big deal. The problem is that we can't know how someone else is going to take something. When I saw the incident in question, it came off as kinda hostile at the time. Miyuki's request didn't seem to come from a hostile place, so the response shouldn't have either.
I have to say thank you to Navei for his attention to the situation last night. It's not something that we need to dwell on, but I think it's just an indicator of what the shell needs. It's fine and dandy to have a loose set of guidelines that aren't expressly written down, but if they HAD been written down, perhaps an incident like this wouldn't have happened in the first place. It's not a bad idea to maybe get some guidelines in writing for the shell so that everyone has something to fall back on instead of this, "Well, you shouldn't have gotten offended" attitude. People do get offended, and we can't change that. What we can change is how we react when someone politely tries to guide us back to where our conversation should be.
I have to say thank you to Navei for his attention to the situation last night. It's not something that we need to dwell on, but I think it's just an indicator of what the shell needs. It's fine and dandy to have a loose set of guidelines that aren't expressly written down, but if they HAD been written down, perhaps an incident like this wouldn't have happened in the first place. It's not a bad idea to maybe get some guidelines in writing for the shell so that everyone has something to fall back on instead of this, "Well, you shouldn't have gotten offended" attitude. People do get offended, and we can't change that. What we can change is how we react when someone politely tries to guide us back to where our conversation should be.
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