(01-30-2015, 01:14 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote:(01-28-2015, 07:26 PM)allgivenover Wrote:
- Steer clear of fetishism. This one might be hard to spot because some of these role players disguise themselves as trying to build an edgy narrative with a taboo subject, but it's important because this sort of role player will abandon you once the fetish play has lost its luster, leaving you with hanging threads and an awkward history.
It's kind of alarming how many role-players cut off contact with me when they realise that I'm not willing to have Graeham jump into bed with their character within a few hours of meeting them. What's even more alarming is that some people expect ERP just because my character happens to be a bit of a flirt. It's already made for a few awkward situations.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not opposed to ERP. I just think the community as a whole is far too tolerant of it. I see it as a very private affair, not something that should be bragged about in public - especially if it involves questionable fetishes.Â
Luckily it's possible to keep an eye out for warning signs and avoid it to some extent. It does require taking a firm stance though, so I feel sorry for people who aren't confrontational enough to tell someone to back off.
I can relate to this post so much and I'm so glad to hear (in a way) that I'm not the only one with this issue.
With K'aworu, there has been a very large amount of people who like him for eRP reasons. When I don't "put out" with him within a session, maybe two, I don't hear from the other person anymore. I even had the opposite happen too with a character I don't play now, but I got along well OOCly with another player and we had something setup for a backstory and it was fantastic, imo. We did also want to add a small level of no-ho-ho because both of us were intrigued by the idea and dynamic it would create. However, after this person slept with my character, they made it a point to avoid me and went RPing with everyone else. They started telling me they were always busy offline, even as they were sitting online and RPing. So I dunno.
What do you want from me
But, more seriously and back on topic. K'aworu runs into the aforementioned a loooot. I don't mind eRP at all, but he isn't a real frivelous character in that department. This isn't to say he's a prude, it's just not easy, y'know? I feel like, basically, that because my character won't sleep around and do it on the drop of a hat, that my character is automatically uninteresting and won't be approached.
